Tag Archives: mommy

1st Baby Blows

7 Oct

So it’s been a few days since I’ve blogged, but that’s because it finally hit.  I knew that with the cooler weather, shared space with other family members,, my husband bringing home germs from his students, etc that “it” would eventually happen.

(Insert suspenseful music here) My little man has his first viral respiratory infection! The constant running nose, bubbles of snot, watery eyes, and slight cough all add to days full of wiping, comforting, sleeping, and basically trying to distract him from the sticky substance that now seems to be everywhere.  It’s amazing how quickly babies learn how to defend themselves against those unwanted nose suckers and tissues!

Thankfully my friend recommended Little Noses Spray to help relieve some of the stuffiness and dryness up there.  True, my son howls when he sees it coming, but already with just 24 hours of use, his symptoms have decreased!  Thank goodness for shared mommy advice and like other mothers like Ellenks and her comments from BlogHer about there being nothing worse than watching your kid feeeling sick and feeling powerless!  Sharing these makes me feel like I am not alone and I can now help my baby, and myself have much more restful evenings and happier days!

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“Do the Right Thing”

1 Oct

So after being off on maternity leave I was visiting my office and showing off my new little man to co-workers. Of course, I had the usual questions like “How are you feeling?” “Hasn’t it gone by fast?” “Are you ready to come back?” etc. But in the midst of all of these one of my male co-workers asked me if I would be returning to work soon or would choose to become a stay-at-home mom. And I promptly responded that I would be returning to work.  He instantly replied “Well, I know you’ll do the right thing.”

One little comment, just one short but direct phrase, threw me into such a state of maternal paranoia and panic! While smiling on the outside, I was simultaneoulsy freaking out in my head wondering if I was doing the wrong thing?!?!  Was I a bad mother for (gasp) WANTING to return to work? I mean, don’t get me wrong, I was loving my bonding time at home with my son. But I was also missing the constant interaction and busy world of Marketing and running my own program, not to mention adult conversation.  

 Why is it that parents do this?  If you read Inforum’s latest report on ‘The New Mom’ this is suppossed to be one of the best times to be a working mom.  We are suppossedly benefitting from years of adapting into euqal status both as being a mother at home, and a woman in the workplace.  I agree with all of the descriptions of this new mom” report, all while thanking women who for years having been balancing being a working mom.  So why did this co-worker make me feel so small and guilty for my response.  True, it could have meant nothing at all, but still…

Either way, I cam back to work after being off for six and a half weeks, and although I have a few moments of doubt, and definitely miss my son, and all of his life changes that I am missing while working, I know I am where I belong.  I may never master the balance of that seemingly unattainable status of being a “Super-mom“.  For now, though, I congratulate all of the Stay- at-Home moms-that is truly a HUGE undertaking and one not meant for me, and I will continue to be a Mom in training, doing what I can to be the best mom for my son.